I took a “5 Love Languages” quiz a few weeks ago, just for fun. I assumed it would tell me exactly what I already thought my top love language was, but I was wrong. Isn’t that usually what happens when you assume? Anyway, it said that my number one love language is words of affirmation. After that, I began to see that yes, being affirmed is pretty important to me, because I so often feel like I’m wrong or not good enough, or invisible. (Doesn’t everyone, at least sometimes?) Even if you know what your love language is, you don’t always receive communication that way. This week though I’ve seen some pretty strong affirmation and I want to share.
The first “piece” of affirmation came in a strange way. I am glad the situation has resolved itself for now and relieved that I am not taking on extra work. I was asked if I would care for someone’s child in a long term situation. This made me feel like other people see me as a great mom, even if I don’t always see myself that way. It feels good to be asked and to know that people see me as more than that crazy short woman with 4 wild children.
The second “piece” came Wednesday night at church. I am participating in The Truth Project class. We watched and discussed week 6 last week, which is about history and why it’s important. History makes us who we are and teaches us. We must learn from real history, though, not history which has been revised.
The third “piece” kind of goes along with the second, which will be made clear in a moment. One of my friends posted on facebook the following question: “Do we love our traditions more than our children?” Now, I immediately thought of Halloween. It’s no secret that I’m a Halloween “hater”, so this should come as no surprise. I feel that many people, even Christians, and sadly people I consider friends, do put their traditions above the spiritual health of their children. How many of you will be out encouraging your children to trick or treat and be scary in a few days? How many of you will lie to your children between now and December 25? How can we teach our children about Jesus and how much He loves us and what He did here, while encouraging lying, and evil practices. (no eating candy and a little dressing up is not evil; celebrating halloween is)
So, my affirmation from 2 & 3 is that I am doing the right thing by homeschooling. We are teaching our children the Truth, about history and about life. Today we attended a Reformation Day celebration at a local private Christian school. It was a wonderful experience for me and for our children. We are loving our children more than traditions. We got rid of all the traditions that weren’t glorifying God. As I told that friend, if we aren’t glorifying God in whatever we do, it’s not worth doing. That is our purpose here and what we are called to do.
“Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the Lord swore to your fathers to give them, like the days of the heavens above the earth.” ~Deuteronomy 11:18-21
I realize the above scripture is talking about the Ten Commandments and that many of you will say that we are under the new covenant so those don’t matter, but this was dealing mainly with the fact that we are supposed to “love the Lord your God and serve Him with all your heart and soul.” and I’m pretty sure that is part of the new covenant too.
I think I got a little side tracked there, but I have been affirmed in all of this and I hope dear reader that you will be too. As long as you love the Lord your God, truly live that and teach your children thusly. You are doing a good job, whether things got a little crazy or messy or difficult or you are too exhausted to get up right now. If you are trying your hardest to do what you are supposed to, you’re right where you are supposed to be.